Do you think the percentage is higher in the church of those who have had affairs (I absolutely detest the use of that term for sexual infidelity…rrrrr), than say of those who are in Starbucks at any given time? It’s an interesting and potentially depressing question. And where did we get the word “affair” to describe sexual sin?
An affair is when I go to a friend’s house and all my buddies show up. We tell stories, laugh, and leave being the better for it! An affair is when I attend a Christmas party with great food, music, laughter, people, and leave smiling…with my wife smiling as well. An affair is when I proudly sit in an auditorium watching a loved one receive some diploma, or accolade. And an affair is when a huge swell hits and all the bro’s are on the beach celebrating.
I don’t know when this term was first used this way, maybe it came from some old movie title, but it says so much about who we are. How would you like a movie title like, “I Screwed Around On My Wife & It Destroyed My Marriage.” Not that romantic, huh? Or, “I Am An Adulterer”? How about, “I Lied…In My Vows & With Another Woman”? Yea, still not sexy, or romantic.
But that’s what we do. When we don’t want to face the consequences of our sin, we change the definitions. “I didn’t have sex with that woman.” Okay, what did you have with “that” woman?
We Christians have such a hard time reconciling consequences and forgiveness. Could it be possible that consequences are a part of God’s plan of redemption? Maybe we can’t even properly repent without acknowledging the pain we’ve brought to ourselves and others first.
“Affair” is way too good of a word to be hijacked by a culture that has no conscience.